Why do we have good days and bad days? | ADHD Information

"Why do we have good days and bad days?"

Because we are normal humans.

I'm taking Prozac for Anxiety.  I've never really had depression.  My therapist recommended that I get my thyroid tested since I do go through bouts of sleepiness.

 

Autumnstar

I know exactly what you are talking about, I have the same kind of adhd. I have the good days and bad days, luckily more good then bad though... but sometimes I'll wake up and be extremely pessimistic and antisocial. I have the chaotic life as well, trying to deal with school and soccer. I had to do work in the summer to finish the classes I did not the year previous. I'm constantly worried about not finishing my work, not succeeding in life. I escape all my problems to go play soccer, it works for me. I'm not sure if this is the case with you but what I did notice when I took meds (mostly stimulants though) is sometimes I would "crash" on them - head aches, extremely antisocial behavior (lock myself in my room and get really annoyed if I hear my family talking or trying to bother me), loss of hope - just everything I'm not. So I moved down the drug list and found this unusual effect with all the drugs i took. So now I'm trying to adapt to my lifestyle without meds and the best thing I figured that worked for me, greater than the support of meds, is the support of people around you. Tell people about your situation and sometimes they can be the best help. adhd is not all just a bad thing either, look on the bright side of things, it inspires creativity and energy. Best thing is to have a friend with adhd to that you can help each other out. You can also look into adhd coaches.  (A letter written by Bill Wilson, co-founder of AA in 1960)   A way out of depression           Durring acute depression, avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be tricked by your unconscious. Thus you will continue to make sure of your failure, and when it comes you will have another alibi for still more retreat into depression.      In short, the 'all or nothing' attitude is a most destructive one. It is best to begin with whatever the irreducible minimums of activity are.  Then work for an enlargment of these--day by day.  Don't be disconcerted by setbacks--just start over.           I can relate so well with the point he makes in this letter.  I have my bouts with depression from time to time, and even though I take medication for it, I know today I need more than to have all my little brain cells in a neat little row... especially the little unconscious ones ...I also need to learn to understand myself.  This intails developing humility so I can be fair with myself and not become dissapointed if my progress seems slow, and to be honest with myself if my lack of progress is due to dragging my feet to avoid change.  I think the "irreducible minimums" he writes about are the realistic goals I set for myself... for without goals, we can make no progress.  And if we fall short at times, we can either achieve nothing but more reasons to be depressed, or give ourselves a break and start over.Progress, not perfection....right Kidd?yupKidd - one of the best posts I've ever read.
Thank you.
[QUOTE=daniel's mom] . . .
These meds all now have suiside risks on them.
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I'd just like to add here that the risks of suicide usually occur when either the person taking the meds already had 'suicidal tendencies' (although not aware of by themselves or most likely by anyone else) and were not having therapy along with their medication. Or those who tried stopping their antidepressant without weaning themselves off...just 'cold turkey.' Very few medications should be stopped w/o weaning off them.   

Daniel's mom....Prozac is for depression that is due to low serotonin. If you have low energy and mood as a result of hypothyroidism, you would need a synthetic thyroxine. Has your doctor prescribed one? It can make a remarkable difference.

While you might think that you can tolerate the symptoms you feel now, there are some long term effects that are much worse. You could develop a goiter...or a life threatening depression, heart failure or coma.

Do you have health insurance? This most definitely would be covered.

Yes, my life is SO busy.  My therapist was impressed that I'm not depressed and that I'm functioning as well as I do in my life.  LOL

Yep, for my neat freak husband, I do what I can.  Then if he decides to complain at me about anything I just tell him to leave me alone.  I used to let it bother me.

Work is an interesting thing - long story short - my work is being changed because we're off shoring some of our job functions so it's been interesting to release alot of my stress over this.

I'm pretty sure for my son's party I'm just going to send some invites out for a bbq style party.  We have alot of friends that want to come for it.

I told my husband that I can't go see this little preemie baby - nor can I deal with all the problems of my husband's sister's situation - I told him to deal with it all, if he wants to.  I'm not turning myself into a 'basketcase' to make anyone else feel better.

I do take time out for myself.  I had a headache last night so I sent my husband off to the gym with the kids so I could be alone to relax for an hour or so.  That really helped.

Autumnstar

This is just part of life. It is not always going to be good. Bad thing are to help us learn from. So as told as a kid. Prozac made me sleep more. These meds all now have suiside risks on them. I was given this before they knew I have hypo thyroidism. I never feel a lot better on this either regardless of dosages. I find natural works best for me. The problem here is my husbands income can't afford all the things I need. Maybe all neurological or chemical body issues are just do to lack of good nutrition. Not everyone can do supplements cause of money issue problems. I don't work cause starting at .00 with gas what it is now here .60per gallon would eat most my pay.

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 Don,t cut your hair ,right now,you probably don,t have time to get to a good hairdrasser.

 Unless uoy have friends at the gym that you can "vent"to  you may consider cutting backon gym unless this is where you "think" away from everyone else.

Hope to hear from you again soon, dan

 

I'm no expert, but I'd have to agree that even a 'normal' would be stressed with what's going on in your life.

My suggestions?

make sure you are not taking responsibility for more that you should, that is, offload any stuff that's not 'yours'...work, problems, etc. In fact, if you can offload some stuff that IS yours, all the better. How 'bout gettin' that stepdaughter involved in the party planning? And the neat freak?....clean up to YOUR standards, and let him do the extra work to meet his own. Unless the gym and Tai Chi are ways for you to release stress, cut back a bit and do something just for you. Meditate, sit on a park bench and feed the birds, crawl in a corner and read, get a massage....do something you WANT to do, not something you 'should' do.

I don't think it's an ADD thing....but I'm new at this.

Prozac did not help me with my ADHD....less depressed  maybe , but no relief of ADHD.

Your life sounds pretty stressful right now....Hang in there. 

 ALL HAIL THE GODDESS OPRAH!!

Sorry ,but I wouldv'e cracked by now.Did all this happen in a weeek, month,year??If you're still in the game and reasonably sane I say hats off to yacause just two of these "problem situations " would've thrown me for a loop.

BUT i'm a guy and  it did and now im an ex.  My suggestion is find your closest friends and have an (undisclosed) group discussion to find out where your support is(this includes your S.O,). I,m paranoid,DON,T mention  why ,just have a bar-be -que and call it a social gathering. If nothing comes of it , at least you can have a nice bar-b-que with friends(stress can look like add BIG TIME!

 

Ok, I've recently been diagnosed by 2 different therapists with ADHD with Anxiety.  I was prescribed Prozac 5 weeks ago which has tremendously helped with certain areas of my thinking.  Such as less irritation over little things, I can concentrate better on many things.

But I'll have some bad days.  Really bad - like I go to my bedroom and avoid my husband and 11 mo son for several hours because I can't handle listening to the two of them anymore.  Or I'll get so sick of phone meetings that I'll put my phone on mute, then set the phone aside ignoring the phone conversation - yep at work!   But still I get major splitting headaches from the fact that I am having these phone conversations. 

Could it be stress that makes us have some days worse than others?  My 11 mo son STILL doesn't sleep through the night.  I work at least 40 hours a week full time - sometimes as many as 60 hours a week.  I go to the gym 5 days a week, as well as Tai Chi classes twice a week.  My sister-in-law just had a baby that's 2 months premature.  My husband is taking his ex-wife to court to get child support for his daughter that's been living with us almost 4 years full time with no financial support from the child's mother.  AND we just found out yesterday that my husband has a gay stalker.

I wish all this wasn't true but unfortunately these are just the main things I'm dealing with now - not all the little stuff too (my stepdaughter just turned 14 and is starting high school next week, my 11 mo son just started crawling and I need to plan his 1 yo party, my husband is a neat freak that I can never keep ahead of, and I'm contemplating if I'm going to cut all my hair off, etc).

And I get to have ADHD on top of all this...  what a life!!!

Autumnstar 

[QUOTE=The Resistance!]"Why do we have good days and bad days?"

Because we are normal humans.
[/QUOTE]Noooo! It's b/c we were born naked...