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Hi, welcome to the board. I checked and most of the adult members are not online. It is the weekend so not sure how many will check in. I just wanted you to know we aren't ignoring you. I do not have ADHD but am here for my sister's daughter (11yrs old) who does. Until you get some responses I hope you will keep reading. So much info here! Again, welcome. I am new to this board but I am so happy that I finally can talk to someone. My daughter is 21 and has been diagnosed with adhd. She has not been able to hold a job, spends her money like there is no tomorrow and doesn't think ahead. She has been on lexapro, welbutrin, straterra and ritalin, with nothing seeming to help, now she is on adderall xr. She goes to a very highly recommended phsychiatrist, which has wanted her to go for counseling too, but she refuses to go. At times she is defiant and thinks she nows best. I guess I am just wanting someone to respond and tell me that I am not the only one going thru this.

[QUOTE=Frustrated Stil] I am new to this board but I am so happy that I finally can talk to someone. My daughter is 21 and has been diagnosed with adhd. She has not been able to hold a job, spends her money like there is no tomorrow and doesn't think ahead. She has been on lexapro, welbutrin, straterra and ritalin, with nothing seeming to help, now she is on adderall xr. She goes to a very highly recommended phsychiatrist, which has wanted her to go for counseling too, but she refuses to go. At times she is defiant and thinks she nows best. I guess I am just wanting someone to respond and tell me that I am not the only one going thru this. [/QUOTE]

Ok! 1. Your daughter is an adult, speading her wings, doing all the impulsive things ADHDers do at her age Gees... it.. is so frustrating to have to take all this unloading of her frustrations.......... her defensiveness. She has, right now, survived so many energy sapping and human situations that would drive most reasonable folk to Blalaaa Land and guess what, Mom, You are the reason this young, creative, intelligent, endlessly dreaming, senitive Woman has made it thus far!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

2. You are among a bunch of folk, some of whom are walking in life in ways that are very like your journey. Some are only starting out. Some have past the stage your family is at. As you have already read some are Adult ADHDer's and have had to face up to the fact that some of the intense and sometimes energy sapping lifes they have had up to this point has caused bafflement and in some cases unhappiness among family, Lovers, BFs,GFs,.

3. Please Share, it is important for U, who has to be the punch bag(emotional). Find time for your "Real" needs, desires, and whatever else is important to You. Be There for Urself as well as your "Lovable Rogue" of a daughter...... Okey Sermon over, "Welcome aboard"

Thanks Ryan I needed that. I guess I don't hear it enough and very seldom get a thank you for what I have done for her. But THANK YOU

Melly, Take A Bow Girl!! Congratulations on your getting a handle on Impulse. I must admitt I am a little bit Jealous! I have fallen down so often recently. I am always the one who jumps in if the idea sounds good. OMG, My poor wife, she is a saint and is my Brick wall when i need it. Well! Mell! Hug that man of yours!

Thank you all who have responded it is such a relief knowing that I am not alone. Please keep in contact. Frustrated Stil

This is why I got diagnosed I can fully relate and used to think I was just a bad person, or lazy. I've had way too many jobs to count! Someone would do something to me that I felt was wrong, so I'd quit. I am finally at a job where I've been for almost 2 years. I spend my money like water too. My husband and I both have decent jobs, but the debt is awful. I've ran up so many credit cards that finally my parents helped us out with a little consolidation loan, and my husband took all of the paid off cards, cut them up, and cancelled the accounts. We're now just getting back on track, and I do think more about purchases before I make them. This will seem really awful, but I actually stood in the middle of Marshall Field and called my husband about buying a Coach purse. It was 50% off-0 from 0. My husband said if I had the money on my credit card, okay, then I had to turn the card over to him. I actually agonized with my best friend standing there, but then declined making the purchase, and I handed her the credit card. I then kind of cried, but it was more like I was proud that I didn't make such an impulse buy. That's when I thought "Wow! This diagnosis and Adderall is actually making a difference!"

You are not the only one going through this! I can remember being anything but obedient with my parents, even now. It's not that I ever did anything destructive or illegal, but I was always rebellious. Still am.

Im still a newbe to the forum and adhd, and when I got out of high school I couldnt even get a job until my brother begged his employer to hire me. That lasted about six months before"layoffs" and I was the newest "employee. I was lucky enough to get into the army where life was structured enough for me to survive. Not that I wouls suggest that today for anyone ,,,especially if they can't pay attention or daydreaming on the battlefield.

I've always been really bullheaded about certain things in my life because "I" wanted to accomplish something , maybe it will take some convincing. But overall, if none of the meds worked, the only thing i can think of is family support and checking on ssi disability.

I hope this helps ,and remember "you are not alone",best wishes with your daughter.

daniel