Hello, my name is stacy. I am 22 years old and i have two children ages 6 and 3, both boys whom i love very much. My 6 year old has adhd and is on straterra, and then there is my 3 year old who just got diagnosed with conduct disorder.he is out of control!!!! and i don't know what to do anymore. don't get me wrong i love my kids with all i got, but i am at my wits end here. he is destroyinf my home and everything in it, he will not listen to anyone for anything, he beats up his big brother!!! and my relationship is coming to an end b/c of all the stress levels with this disorder. does anyone have any advise on things that i can do at home to help with this?? anything would be worth hearing. b/c i am so tired of everyone saying that my son is a "bad" kid when he has something serious wrong with him. i am trying to work and go to college on top of this but with his behavior it makes it almost impossible b/c no one wants to deal with him. i just don't know what to do anymore. someone, anyone, please help!!!
You are not a bad mother and no one here doubts for a moment that you love your son! Many people here have posted on the same issue and all feel hopeless and helpless at times. First, remember that you are a good mother and your son's issues are the result of something that you and he cannot control by will power and discipline. Do not listen to people who tell you otherwise.
Is he on meds? Is he taking supplements? My first suggestion would be to immediately start him on the Omegas. There are posts here which can help you understand them better. Just do a search for Omegas.
As far as his behavior, there have been several posts here during the past week about violent children. One I can think of now is "Please don't judge me". Look that one up and read it. Read it as though it were written for you because, in a sense, it was. It was written for a mom who was dealing with the same thing in her 3 yr old.
Look up all the posts you can find on this topic and you will find a variety of coping skills and strategies.
There is hope. He is blessed to have you for his mom! You are seeking answers instead of sending him away or becoming abusive. Hang in there! You can do this and he will thank you for it someday!
Barb,
Hi! thank you, it is really nice to know that there are people out there that understand instead of just think bad right away. it is just so hard when i don't have support from anyone else. my 3 year old is starting therapy tomorrow, so i am hoping that it will help out. thank you again.
I have a grandson,,,who has rages and adhd,,braindamage,,,and when he is not on his meds,,,,omg,,,,everyone run for the hills,,,lol,,,,but he is a good kid,,,so i tell themmm,,,,,I AM CALLING THE NANNY SHOW,,,lol,,,,relax,,,,breath,,,,and do the credit,,,it takes time but does help me some,,,,each credit is one penny at the end of the month they get it and go to the store,,,,,NO candy,,lol