Peeing and Pooping in pants | ADHD Information

Hey...

 

I have a question that is kind of weird if you dont know why I ask this.  Is his poop really BIG?  

My son has an issue with constipation and wetting himself.  He also has nurological issues from his prenatal period.  (Prenatal Enspholophy..sp?)

 

Anyway..there is really not a test you can do to find this out but my nephew is a nuro surgeon and explained it like this.  Because of his nurological issues his system is delayed.  He does not feel the urge to to to the bathroom like we do until its coming out or he is about to wet himself. The poop will build up and get very large and it basically hurts and he associates going to the bathroom with pain....therefore he has bathroom issues.

ALSO... If you read the medicaion I am willing to bet you consipation is a side effect.

However the good news is this.  My son is doing great with his potty activites now.  I just think the ADHD is a big nuro issue and this can effect their going to the potty in addition to the fact they get busy and dont take the time to go.

My advice to you is just not to freak out about it and maybe it will work itself out.  I hate poop in pants and I use to act ugly to my son about it.  I feel guilty now but sometimes the stress gets to you

Good Luck

Joseph

I am at my wits end with my son who 7 1/2 years old and continues to pee and poop in his pants.

We have had tests done and it has been ruled out that he has a medical problem.  Apparently it is an immaturity issue and I believe it is a part of his ADHD.  He is so into doing things, that he doesn't stop to go to the bathroom.  We have tried rewards, punishments, anything and everything.   The past few weeks the pooping thing has been almost EVERY day. 

Is anyone else dealing with this ?  I feel so bad for getting so mad at him, but I just can't take it anymore. Our house stinks of pee and poop.  I feel guilty for getting him potty trained so late (he was like almost 5) Well, actually, I guess he really isn't potty trained yet, cuz he is still peeing in his pants daily and wears a pull-up at night.

Thanks for letting me vent.  Any advice is very much welcomed.

-Susan 

We have the issue of him peeing in his room....the smell in our house is aweful too.  I keep his door closed.  he did it because of the attention thing, and he's 12, going on 13.  This started when he was 11.  Good luck!

I experienced this (encopresis) with my son, age 6, also!!  He was 5, completely potty trained, and he had obsessions.  One of his obsessions was that he wouldn't poop unless it was after 12 oclock noon - not 11:58 or 11:59 - it had to be after 12pm.  Then he carried his obsession further, and quit going on the toilet at all. He hid his dirty underwear in his brother's room (his brother was away in the Marines).  I too tried so hard not to get upset.  We tried everything.  What seemed to work was that I believe he was worried his friends would find out and also I reminded him that soon he would be 6.  This started last June and lasted til January of this year.  One day out of the blue, he started signaling to me (he'd say ' I love you" in particular way) and so then I know he has to go.  I don't understand it - why it started and why it ended.  But I understand your frustration.  

I doubt that it has anything to do with your son's late potty training.  Look up ENCOPRESIS and see if there is any helpful info you can use!! 

VickiLE

My son is 11 and he still holds his bowl movements.  Sometimes I think that he would never stinky if we did not tell him to.  It helps to know that other parents are going through this as well.  I try to tell my son to use the bathroom atleast every other day.  I also have him write it down-that way we can look back and see how long it has been.  This is the only thing that we could think of to do.  I also believe that they get busy and don't take the time to go to the bathroom.  When my son was yonger, his doctor said for us to wait about 30 min. after he ate and then have him sit on the toilet for awhile.  It worked for awhile.  It became a chore for us because he went to daycare and we would have to get them to do this as well.  All I can say is to try whatever comes into your mind-don't give up.  Believe me, I know the frustration that you feel.  I have two boys and both have adhd.   Good Luck!

Katrina          ;           ;           ;           ;           ;           ;           ;     

My ds is almost ten.  He still poops in his pants.  Occasionally, he makes it.  But I have to remember to ask him and/or make him go.  I try to make it at the same time each day, like just before he gets into the shower.  He wore pull-ups forever.  I thought it would embarrass him, but it didn't work.  Now when he goes in his underwear, I throw it out.  I've scrubbed and soaked the last of that!  It's not quite as bad as it used to be, but he still does it quite often.  No doctor has ever been able to give me a good reason why this was happening.  For a very long time I gave him metamucil and that helped a little.  His BM is also very large.  Poor thing.Does he have any other delays?

WOW !!  Thanks everyone for their quick replies !  It feels great to know I am not the only parent going through this.

devotedtohimtoo - My son is not embarrased by it, either.  As a matter of fact, he would just go on with his day with the poop in his pants and not want to change.  Last night, I told him that everytime he poops I throw away his underwear because I am NOT cleaning it out and that he needs to give me $ 5.00 of his money to go buy more underwear as he is running out and I refuse to just keep buying them when he does this.  He DID NOT like that at all (which reminds me, I better hit him up for the money when I get home)  I also make him write sentences saying, I will not poop in my pants... 10 times the 1st time and then increasing it 10 times each time he poops.  He absolutely hates to write so I am hoping that between that, him buying his own underwear and taking away computer time that he will get with the program and make it to the bathroom on time!

Keep the advice coming.....thank you everyone....

In JR. high my sister wouldn't go potty at school at all.Hated the smell of their rest rooms I guess.psm0904-  The only delays he has is going to the bathroom and also getting his homework done my son potty trained pretty well but still to this day will poop and pee in his room and has started doing it in the yard now too.....  
I swear that there are times I am at my wits end over this and am really glad that it is not just my problem....I just wish none of us had this particular ssue to deal with.....

My son was severely impacted & diagnosed with encopresis after an x-ray of his abdomen & now takes Miralax to regulate him.  He's had constipation problems in the past & the Dr. explained that when kids get constipated, hard stools get stuck in the intestines which causes diarrhea-like stool to come out-which they don't even feel.  She said the colon stretches due to the constipation & the child cannot "feel" the need to go.  She recommended 6 months maintenance with the Miralax.  It's worked wonders.  He goes regularly, almost the same time of day & has not had an accident since.  Good Luck!

Here's my boy's twist on this situation, he's six, and still has to wear pull ups at night because he cannot stay dry.  I'm okay with that, some kids get that under control later than others.

However, lately, the past few months, he'll dance around and hold his penis, and squeeze his legs together for like, over an hour, trying to avoid going to the bathroom.  Even in the middle of this, we tell him to go and he insists he doesn't have to go.  Sometimes he wets his clothes or sprays the bathroom because by the time he's wrangling his pants down the urine is just coming out....

The only reason I can see for any of this, is he's decided I guess that if he doesn't use the restroom he doesn't have to wash his hands.  He's a horrible liar.  He'll come back out and tell us nothing came out, when we heard him go.  Plus, he'll forget to flush and you can see that he went.   I've been really frustrated by this!

 

For alot kids this is a control. Their bodily functions become something they are obsessed with for the control aspect. The manifests itself in fear of the bathroom in some cases. The release is like a loss of control, and it scares them.

Also, a fear of pain could cause issues. My step-daughter just went through a small phase of being scared to poop after she had one that created anal fissures. She held it in which made it worse. We fed her lots of fiber and reassured her that everyone goes through this. We told her it stinks, but the pain goes away relatively quick. She finally starting going again, and tells us if she is starting to have any issues with constipation.

Maybe this can add some insight:

soiling pants

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/8/T086200.asp

http://www.keepkidshealthy.com/welcome/conditions/encopresis .html

http://www.aafp.org/afp/990415ap/2171.html

http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/encopresis.ht ml


http://www.medicinenet.com/encopresis/article.htm

the only explanation what i found is that the same aria of the brain that is affected by ad/hd also controls the blader and the bowel

i also had problems pooping my pants becaus of stress so my tip is figure out WHY it hapens and solve that and doN'T punich it does not help it only frusterates him/her and it wil only hapen more often

stephan